UNVEILING THE CONCEPT OF ENGAGEMENT IN ISLAM

The Decoration on Engagement Ceremony In Pakistan


    Islam is a religion of modesty &Simplicity as Muhammad SA (PBU) narrated the best wedding is that upon which least trouble & Expense is bestowed (Mishkat).


In Islam, the journey towards marriage begins with the concept of engagement, known as Khitbah in Arabic. This pivotal step marks the commitment between a man and a woman as they prepare to enter into the sacred union of marriage.

 TRADITIONAL PROPOSAL ETIQUETTE

The Islamic tradition emphasizes the importance of sending proposals through families or trusted intermediaries. This ensures a respectful and honorable approach to initiating the engagement process.

EMBRACING PRE-MARITAL COMPATIBILITY

Before the engagement is formalized, it is encouraged (Mustahib) for the prospective partners to see each other according to Islam where the man is allowed to see face & Forehands of proposed woman . as it will define her beauty .This looking should be last step of investigation and should not be for lust.

From al-Mugheerah ibn Shu’bah: “I proposed marriage to a woman, and the Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) said: ‘Have you seen her?’ I said, ‘No.’ He said, ‘Look at her, because it is more fitting that love and compatibility be established between you.’” According to another report: “So he did that, and he married her and mentioned that they got along.”

(Reported by al-Daaraqutni, 3/252 (31, 32); Ibn Maajah, 1/574

        Citing Hadith, Prophet Muhammad (PBUH) advocated for the practice of seeing one's prospective spouse before engagement. This step, done with modesty and sincerity, aids in establishing a strong foundation for marital bliss.        

THE SYNBOLISM OF RING CEREMONY

RING CEREMONY IN PAKISTANI ENGAGEMENT


While the exchange of rings is not an Islamic tradition, it has been adopted by some Muslims as a symbol of commitment and love. However, it is important to note that such exchanges should occur after Nikah (marriage) and not as a customary display in front of the public.

Nikah is Sunnah of our Holy Prophet and we are obliged to follow his words & actions.

Abu Sa’id al khudri narrated that Prophet (PBU) said “You will follow the ways of those nations who were before you ,Span by Span & Cubit by Cubit (Inch by inch)so much so that even they entered a hole of Mastigure ,you would follow them” We said “O” Allah’s Messanger  Do you mean Jews & Christians .Prophet replied “Who else” (Sahi Al Bukhari 7320).

PROHIBITION OF USING GOLD IN ISLAM &OF EXTRAVAGANCE & ADORNMENT FOR MEN

 

Islamic teachings discourage extravagance and adornment, especially for men who are advised against using gold, platinum, or excessive jewelry. The emphasis is on simplicity and modesty in all aspects of life,. Including engagements

Further Muslim man is not allowed to use Gold, Platinum and other except silver equal to 4.5 masha (67.5 grams).

 

MAINTAING BOUNDRIES DEFINED BY ISLAM AFTER ENGAGEMENT

COUPLE ENJOYING AFTER ENGAGEMENT ALONE

After engagement, both are considered as Non Moharrm's, it is essential for the couple to  adhere to Islamic guidelines regarding interactions between non-Mahram (individuals not permissible for marriage).

As we do not follow Islamic rules but copy the culture of other religion and it has become very common in our society .

          It is not permissible to meet alone after engagement ,enjoy dinners & Lunches ,holding hands being Secluded in a private place in terms of now called as Hanging Out ,Socializing as husband &wife& intermingling in a way as husband &Wife as before Nikah they are Non-Moharram and Allah says when one man & Woman are alone with each other the third one is Satin

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