RIGHTS OF HUSBAND & WIFE ON EACH OTHER

I know that this is very sensitive topic but as daily lot of cases come on my clinic and discuss their marital issues regarding the behavior of each other therefore I decided to write my intension is not to hurt the feelings or emotions of any one Almighty Allah as created men and women for each other with equal rights but men are given more responsibilities over women with some greater rights. As narrated in al Baqarah 2: 228 “ As women has rights over husband regarding living expenses similarly women has the right to obedience and respect what is reasonable but men have a degree (of responsibility) over them. 1) THE RIGHT OF OBEDIENCE : Ali Ibn Talha narrated from Ibn Abbas “Men are protectors and Maintainers of women means they are in charge of them and women should treat his family well and take care of his wealth” But what we observe today in upper and middle class as poor families do not have any power it is lacking in our society ,where women talk about their rights and who those are working do not realize these rights which has led to frustration and uncomforted in our society. 2) MAKING AVAILABLE TO HER HUSBAND WHEN SHE IS ASKED In Islam as stated in 3DGB 1st March 1999 marriage is said to take place after there has been a valid offer and acceptance, in a social context it is a setting for legalization of sexual intercourse and procreation of children and for a Husband MEHR is obligatory to give to her wife as honor and respect. Further as two witness are to be present at the time of Nikkah it is necessary to announce the marriage publically either through valima or some gathering. As a man has given the right over woman to enjoy her physically if she is able to have intercourse .She is obliged to submit herself according to contract. Abu Hurayrah said “The Messenger of Allah Peace be upon him said when a man calls his wife to his bed and s she refuses and her husband went to sleep angry with her ,the angles curse her till morning (Narrated by al Bukhari 3065,Muslim 1436) unless she has valid reason like menses ,obligatory fasting, sickness etc. But now it is called Marital Rape by women no doubt men has to take care of wife and his duty is to be kind to her but does all women fulfill their duties and our media is promoting this on large scale the recent example is “TERE BIN " on Geo Television which went block buster where girl marries a man with contract that he will be protector but not use the rights of husband until she allows. This has been in many dramas but should we promote them on media and misguide our young generation about a precious relationship Marriage. The main rationale behind this is that husband does not fall in illegal relationships (ZINNA). 3) NOT ADMITTING OR ALLOWING ANY ONE WHOM HER HUSBAND DISLIKES Trimidhi 1163 ,Al bukhari 4899 ,Muslim 1026 narrated that in last Sermon by Holy Prophet (Peace be upon him) narrated in detail about rights of husband and wife on each other and Messenger clearly prohibited wife not to allow to enter in her home or sit on his bed to whom her husband does not like . 4) NOT GOING OUTSIDE WITHOUT PERMISSION OF HUSBAN 5) DISCIPLINE Husband has right to discipline his wife if she disobeys him or do something which is sin. 6) ADORE FOR HUSBAND Women are instructed to adore themselves for husband but we can observe now a days in middle or upper middle class especially working women when they come from their work places due to stresses of offices, stress of house hold work to be completed, traffic on roads ,some have work load so much that it causes frustration in them no doubt they work to support husband and family but they have also rights over them and in all this she at many times ignores her husbands which lead to misunderstanding and create distances and at the end the happy marriages get decayed . Islam does not allow women to work but everything has limits and they are defined by our religion as no other religion has given rights to women as in Islam as the MEHR which is only in Islam to give respect and honor to wife. Islam has narrated mutual kindness and behavior between husband & wife if men have duty to be kind & fulfill the financial responsibilities in same way wife has to be kind and respect her husband and his family If both will not follow the rules and women will cry for her rights and husband for his and do not practice Compassion, Forgiveness & Gentleness in their relation in daily routine the marriage will not be sustainable and result after some time in either separation, Khula & Divorce which is observed in our society and more projected in media through television dramas.